12/21/2008 12:16:00 PM |
Author: Mhaldito~
For the past few years I've been out of the track. I made myself a loner. Having limited friends and having no time to socialize and explore the outside world of my Room and work make me realize that I missed a lot. But lately I am going back to normal life, I'm starting to get back to the track whom i missed for the past 4 years.
Thanks to Poh for having a lot of patient on me, for making me speak and not just stay in silence, for letting me explore things that theres more to life outside the four walls of my room and for the love that makes me go back to where I belong.
For now... am happy...
and
still adjusting to the things that I have missed...
^_~ Mhaldito~
12/11/2008 03:27:00 PM |
Author: Mhaldito~
Last week.. Wella (Author of Thinking Pen), my colleague, has been asking me if what is my point of view about same sex marriage. Coz she is composing a blog about it. ( please visit her site to read her entry about same sex marriage )
I told her...
"I am not a believer in marriages (not just for same sex marriage but for marriage as a whole)... I believe in commitment and how to oblige on it.. It is not necessary to be married in order for your love be perfected.."
Love can be perfected by two people working a strong relationship... It is the foundation of trust that that you gain and earn on both sides... It is a bridge of communication for two people working together as one...
I have a college/close friend who is having a problem with marriage... her partner has been married before and got kids... They've been together for years and yet she still want to be married with her partner... She is having a problem knowing that his partner is not yet annulled with his previous wife... She is afraid that one day she might loose her partner just because they're not married and they can't be recognized as a family ( luckily they got a very cute son )...
I asked her...
"Do you love him?"
and she said... "Yes, I do..." I asked again...
"Does he love you?"
and she answered... "Yeah, he's been telling me that and showing it..."
I then asked her a follow-up question...
"Then... Whats the problem?"
she just stared at me and cried... and then I told her...
"Do not be afraid just because you both are not married... Marriage is just papers.. you sign them and be recognized... But what's important is the commitment that you both vowed to each other... The love that you shared through all these years..."
Do not think of marriage as a lacking peice in the puzzle that makes your relationship perfect... Don't make your life more complicated just because of that...
You both are happy...
Be contented on what you have...
The most important is you have HIM...
and he has YOU..."
....
I was reading at Wella's entry ( and got permission to post a paragraph of it.. ).. And I told her... "this is for you".... and then post it on our IM
Marriage is a sacred and a legal vow of commitment, but we can also love without having to go through a sacred ceremony. If our law demanded to limit marriage to a man and a woman, why bother tying the knot when we can show love other than exchanging I dos? There are a lot of ways to show our love and it has nothing to do with blotting our decrees much more with regulations than would make it more imperfect.
10/07/2008 03:21:00 PM |
Author: Mhaldito~
Finding a serious relationship is not easy to get. It takes a lot of stressful stages just to know that a person is really into you and you are ready to commit. Sometimes getting to know each other is not enough just to start a relationship. It takes a lot of strategy just to know if that person really cares or commit on what he says.
A friend of mine met a guy through chat and find him interesting. They exchange numbers and get to know each other through SMS. They met... and find themselves comfortable with each other... As days goes by... Constant communication showing affection.. numerous dates and thinking that they like each other... They step up into the next level and starting to build a serious relationship...
After days of observation if they are really into each other... My friend told me that he feels that his partner is just playing around and likes him just to be around... I asked him a question. "Were you able to confirm or is it just that you feel that he is not that serious?" He said.. "yes" ... I replied.. "How?" ... He answered.. "He just wanted me to be around." ... I did not replied coz its his own perception to think that way and I respect it... But when I realized and suddenly a question came out of my mouth... "How can u be serious if you think that he cheats on you with just one simple reason?"...
no answer at all... (deadma ang show)
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Meeting and Getting to know each other is not enough just to start a serious relationship. It takes time to trust somebody's commitment. When you try to commit your not playing at all. You risk yourself and gamble your emotion with discourage.
Do not expect when you try to commit, Learn from each others mistake,Give time and space to breathe, Learn to accept that he has his own life and his life doesn't evolve around you (vice versa), Wait and never give up. With these you will truly see that Getting Serious is not like a candy that you can grab it and eat it right away.
Mhaldito~
