People tend to get bitter everytime they lost the love that once they had. We tend to put hatred on it and ask ourselves "What have I done?" We become weak, start being sarcastic, and somehow lost the ability to love. We isolate ourselves and trying to find another comfort zone.
But looking on the brighter side. Instead of killing ourselves from emotional breakdown. Let go of things that aren't meant for you to have.
A friend once sent me a very inspiring message. It says:
"You should be bitter and don't be full of hatred when the one you love does not love u the way you love him. Ask, listen and let go. Don't force youself to understand when you can't, to fight hard when obviously its over and to play deaf to the nagging truth that what you've had doesn't work and wont work anymore...
Say this instead
I had loved you more than you think I would, but I feel sorry that you've lost your chance to be loved more that you would ever feel in your life after this."
If I had any regrets on something that I've done in the past... that I could be better today..
I answered..
"I don't regret any decision I made and any mistakes that i could have corrected in the past.. Everything happens for a reason.. Life isn't all about destiny.. It is always a Yes or No.. Now or Never... It is a choice.."
There's always a point.. where we always reminisce the past and think of something we could have done that would make us better today... But looking on the brighter side, we always look forward and accept that things really happen for a reason... But the good thing is ... we tried everything to make it better prior to moving on...
Happiness can be achieved once we accept things that made in the past... make us what we are today to be better... happy and fulfilled...
Sometimes... its not what we want that can make us happy... Its what's not and acceptance..
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"Many people have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
Most of us always hold on to something that we can barely touch. We always think that holding on means hope, where hope is becoming a mere ambition, a dream. A dream, that will never come true, that will always stay as a dream.
Learning the art of acceptance means facing the reality, We always get back on the track and move on. Live our lives in a normal way where it is used to be. We always move forward and leave no traces behind but tracks.
Right now... Life has been treating me so nice... Where I can live by my own decision, choose the right path for me. And most of all living life to its fullest, Loving the way it is, and accepting things always happen for a reason.
For the past few weeks I've been ejoying life. hanging out with new found friends who shares their thoughts, feelings and insights. Making me comfort most of the time when i feel down and depressed. Chillaxin in movie houses and have some good conversation over a cup of coffee. Having a laughing moments with Red Horse, Kamikze, Microphone and Bleeding Love songs. Going to church on sundays and listen to the homilee and word of God. They are the one who oppose on what you think and look on the positive side of life. But still i found friend and company with them.
But even how happy you feel is... there comes a point in your life that we feel depressed, sad and alone...
Going home alone, sleeping alone, eating alone... makes me say "something is missing in me".. But still I can't figure it out...
well they said...
"You can never be contented... Just satified..."
for most of the people... cannot be contented... we always look for much better... we always leave things behind... and look for the better...
How I wish... I can be contented on what I have and what I had...
(Currently Listening: Love Moves in Mysterious Ways by Nina)
According to the song...
"Love moves in mysterious ways..."
Love really moves in mysterious ways. It is unpredictable. It moves in a way where we don't know how to control it. It moves in a way that seems nobody is around you and your world shuts down. It moves in a way where we believe, hope and dream that happiness could be achieved in an utmost level. Like every mans dream "To fall in love... and be loved in return."
Love is the foundation of any relationships. It is the basic foundation of trust and commitment. It is the source of sacrifices and understandings. It makes your self-steem low. It makes a different person. and somehow it makes us a better person.
But how positively can we think of love. Love can be harsh in some ways.
Love can ruin partnership and break the bond of trust and commitment. It is the reason why we became selfish and self-centered. We easily get attached to someone that we forget ourselves and the people around us.
But eventhough we lose some of it. We still hope that one day love will come our way no matter how hard the consequences is just to feel love once again and be happy...
It has been weeks since I've posted my last entry. A lot of things has been happening to me. Just recently a tragic event just happened in my life whom I did not expect. It was all of a sudden. Its like a smash of a big hammer onto me.
Well indeed it hurts. I can't accept it. It's like the whole world crashed down on me. I am devastated.
From that moment I felt guilty... Guilty because I let my world evolve around him... Guilty because I let myself a second priority... Guilty because I never gave myself a chance to stand up alone...
I was seeking for an advice from my friend (a true friend, i can attest to that..) and gave me some things in life that I lack and probably remember... out of the conversation i tried to create a quote.
"Loving someone is a huge responsibility and it involves a lot of sacrifices. If you're not mature enough to handle that, then you are not ready to commit. If you keep on holding what you are, then you will never find your true self."
Right now.. I'm still not losing hope... I am still hoping... Hoping that everything will be fixed, hoping that everything will be alright... Not in an instant but in gradual phase... I'm not closing doors for chances for its not asked... its given... I can and will wait...
With this tragic moment... I am facing a new me... A person who does not quit, a person who is determined and motivated... A person who prioritize himself and a person who stand alone...
This is the time when I decided to work here in Cebu and join the crowd. This is the time when I decided to leave the company when I feel that I’m not well compensated considering the tenureship, dedication and hard work that I gave to the company.
It is on this year when I found a new home, new career and new “me”. Though a lot of struggle came when I’m still on a transition from the things that I am used to be to the things that is New to me. It is also on this time when I decided to leave and let go of someone I knew and been longing for. Well it really felt good.
In this year, I found myself all alone and felt that I’m fooled to those people whom I thought who would save me of what I’ve become.
But evetually, someone came. And thought me how to be open again and tells me there’s more to life than the four walls of my room.
This is the time when I truly understand what Unconditional Love is and knowing how to keep it.
It is the time when I found true friends that really understand and cares.
Its been a good year to me. Hoping for a better, happy and worth living 2009.
Now I can feel that its Christmas Season already. A lot of people is going on leave for Christmas Vacation (unfortunately.... been celebrating Christmas in the office for the past 2 years).. on the Christmas Eve and Christmas Day it is gonna be my Rest Day. For the first time in 3 years, Its gonna be my restday on those days (DAMN!! as far as I really want to work but it seems that my teammates doesn't want to have a swap since its DOUBLE PAY!!!). Probably it will be the first time that I am going to spend it alone in my room.
Its kinda sad but I don't have any choice.
Poh, will be having a shift on that night. Establishments are closed. And I bet less jeeps will be on the road.
sigh...
But still I am hoping for a Happy Christmas on that night.
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Here are my Christmas Wishlist, Its just a list though..
Boxer Shorts
Since I sleep and stay in my room a lot. It would be better if I only wear boxer shorts since its very relaxing and it will lessen my laundry problems.
A White or Dirty White Chuck Taylor Shoes
Probably if I have money I will buy this. Probably from Bench or Penshoppe (I Prefer. Converse is too expensive)
A Pair of Jeans
A pair of Jeans ( Rugged Look ) from JAG, Dickies or Bench. This is the first Christmas that I haven't bought any pants. (will be buying by January)
New Jacket ( the green one from ArtWork )
Hayyyyyyy... Been dying to buy that Jacket that I saw in ArtWork. But Im working on it right now. ( Diet!! Diet!!! Diet!! ) Toblerone Dark Choco
A lot of Chocolates... I mean dark chocolates.. But unfortunately, Im Allergic to it ( sad.. sigh..)
Pizza and Pasta
I miss my mom's homemade pasta... huhuuhuhu... and a take out Pizza from Shakey's huhuhuhuhu....
A lot of Christmas Greetings
Somehow.. greetings on Christmas Eve will somewhat makes me happy and satisfied. Well at least they are thinking about you and your happiness. Love
One of the best gift that I have received. Well kowing that theres someone who cares for you and loves u undeniably... That really feels good... Not just during christmas season... But all of the time..
and
Finally
Giving Thanks to those people.. who made me Smile, Laugh, and Feel that I exist..
To my close friends...
Who never gave up on me... even though during dark times..
To my enemies...
That made me a better person and teach me how to fight and act professionally.
To myFamily...
Who is always there... to cheer me up and made me what I am right now..
Last week.. Wella (Author of Thinking Pen), my colleague, has been asking me if what is my point of view about same sex marriage. Coz she is composing a blog about it. ( please visit her site to read her entry about same sex marriage )
I told her...
"I am not a believer in marriages (not just for same sex marriage but for marriage as a whole)... I believe in commitment and how to oblige on it.. It is not necessary to be married in order for your love be perfected.."
Love can be perfected by two people working a strong relationship... It is the foundation of trust that that you gain and earn on both sides... It is a bridge of communication for two people working together as one...
I have a college/close friend who is having a problem with marriage... her partner has been married before and got kids... They've been together for years and yet she still want to be married with her partner... She is having a problem knowing that his partner is not yet annulled with his previous wife... She is afraid that one day she might loose her partner just because they're not married and they can't be recognized as a family ( luckily they got a very cute son )...
I asked her...
"Do you love him?"
and she said... "Yes, I do..." I asked again...
"Does he love you?"
and she answered... "Yeah, he's been telling me that and showing it..."
I then asked her a follow-up question...
"Then... Whats the problem?"
she just stared at me and cried... and then I told her...
"Do not be afraid just because you both are not married... Marriage is just papers.. you sign them and be recognized... But what's important is the commitment that you both vowed to each other... The love that you shared through all these years..."
Do not think of marriage as a lacking peice in the puzzle that makes your relationship perfect... Don't make your life more complicated just because of that...
You both are happy...
Be contented on what you have...
The most important is you have HIM...
and he has YOU..."
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I was reading at Wella's entry ( and got permission to post a paragraph of it.. ).. And I told her... "this is for you".... and then post it on our IM
Marriage is a sacred and a legal vow of commitment, but we can also love without having to go through a sacred ceremony. If our law demanded to limit marriage to a man and a woman, why bother tying the knot when we can show love other than exchanging I dos? There are a lot of ways to show our love and it has nothing to do with blotting our decrees much more with regulations than would make it more imperfect.
I find these facts interesting.. This has been a repost from socyberty.com
Hope this facts can help you and lead you to a better and happy relationship.
Woooott!! ~~~
Love each other. The simplest but the most effective way of maintaining a good relationship is just to love each other. What is it in a relationship if there is no love, is it just lust from the very beginning?
Don't Lie. In any relationship, there should always be trust between the couple or else all will end up in chaos. We should always remember that there is no secret that can't be revealed, sooner or later you'll just find out that you are just cheating and putting yourself into shame.
Keep Good Communication. Personally I can say that good communication between couples should highly be done because it is the only way they can keep in touch; it is the only way(especially for distant relationships) to keep track of the feelings and emotions of the partners.
Stay Sweet. Although you may have faced some serious problems in your relationship, you should at least never lose your sweetness. Many problems occur when one of the couple cannot just be humble enough to accept that he or she is wrong.
After facing a fight with each other just forgive and forget. As humans, we can never avoid misunderstandings, because it is just the effect of our imperfections in life. But with that imperfection comes perfection because it is with that misunderstanding that the couple will know each other more.
Never talk about breakup. If you don't want breakups then why talk about it in the first place. Just talking about the possibilities of a breakup will leave an impression to your partner that you don't love him/her sincerely or you are just giving him/her the reason to quit your relationship.
If you are really sorry, mean it! The word sorry is just so common among men. Before planning on cheating on your partner, why not think again about the consequences you gonna end up facing.
Don't compare your past and present. You should not just compare your past to the present because the setting is completely different. You cannot just compare the picture coming out from a 'black and white television' with a 'digital flat screen television' because they are not of the same level.
Don't talk about your past relationships. Sticking to what have happened in the past will just give you hard time of moving on. You will never notice how your present partner loves you if ever you keep on thinking of your ex.
Give and take process. It is not always that one should be in charge of the other.
Be more sensitive of the feelings of your partner. It is not just enough to ask him/her about his/her feelings because most of the time he/she will hide true feelings. They will not just tell you in the sense that they don't want you to get hurt also.
When you had a fight, don't let the day pass without being fine. The longer you stay in a fight, the more time you need for reconciliation. Let us just remember that the more you let someone dying wait, the less chance of survival and same is true with love.
Don't be the perfect one, be the right one. Are you tired of being somebody else just to please your partner? You never need to do that in the first place. If you are really loved by your partner then he/she should accept you no matter who you are.
Swallow your pride. As I said earlier, relationships will never work unless one of the couple will be humble enough to lower himself/herself down even though he/she knows that he/she is not really the fault of the fight.
Among any other celebration, never forget to remember anniversaries or monthsaries. It is already very common among any other couples to be fighting over because one of them actually forgot to remember their anniversary. It is just perfectly understandable for someone to forget but whenever you try to explain to your partner just get it straight to the point. Just don't tell him/her that you had a stomach problem that's why you were not able to attend, oh come on it's just so highscool.
I was browsing Youtube when all of a sudden I stcuck on this Video from CMA `08 Awards... As I am listenin to her Introduction on how music kept her going from the day she lost her beloved husband...
The Title of the song is Just a Dream performed live by Carrie Underwood... This song has been introduced by Leslie Ponder...
For me... Music really has the power to make us heal... It relaxes and soothes our mind in learning somethings in life... with the good combination of the medley, lyrics and the music all in all..
It was quite a calm, silent and more peaceful day for me so far... The whole shift I'm listening to mellow songs... This songs realyl kept me going in accepting things that come my way which I do not expect... These are the songs that really touch your heart not just of the melody but the content of it.. Hope that these songs really listens on what your heart says...
Today... 2 text messages from a friend and a relative makes me smile and think of someone I miss the most ... As of the moment I am missing someone... Too bad I can't be with him all the time... But then again I realize.. You really need to miss someone to know how important they are... I hope that he is feeling the same way too..
I just want to share this wonderful message to those people who miss their love one(s)...
--oOo--
"When I'm not there... do you think of me? When you're sad and something's bothering you... do you wish I were there to help comfort you? When you've had a long hard day... do you smile knowing that soon you'll be seeing me, and everything will seem better, even if it's just for a moment? When you lay down at night... do you look back and cherish the new memories you've made with me? And when you get up in the morning, does everything inside of you smile, knowing that this will be another day that we'll be together? because that's how I think of you..."
--oOo--
Others say:
"Missing someone is when it's them you think of when your alone."
But I say:
"Missing someone is when your thinking of that perosn...
There came to a point where you reminisce and think of someone you love the most... Missing someone that you can hardly hold... When all you can do is dream...
This for you guys... who always believe in love... and never gave up on it...
I got this song from the movie "Get over it" that really inspire me... That there's always a room for dreaming and believing that anything could happen... and believing in love to last longer... and even forever...
Dream of Me
Let me sleep For when I sleep I dream that you are here You’re mine And all my fears are left behind I float on air The nightingale sings gentle lullabys So let me close my eyes
And sleep Per chance to dream So I can see the face I long to touch To kiss But only dreams can bring me this So let the moon Shine softly on the boy I long to see And maybe when he dreams He’ll dream of me
I’ll hide beneath the clouds And whisper to the evening stars They tell me love is just a dream away Dream away (echo 3x) I’ll dream away
So let the moon Shine softly on the boy I long to see And maybe when he dreams He’ll dream of me
Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer. ~Shunryu Suzuki
Let me share you this quote that really tells the truth... For those people who fears change... This quote let me remember my old self... Where I myself lived with a life that is constantly changing... ~Mhaldito
I was busy reading some forum site and community site when suddenly i came across with a discussion about love.. It really inspire me reading these stuff...
It started when somebody posted ....
"if love is based on lies... does that mean its not a real feeling?"
then all of a sudden replies has been flowing... one reply that i liked the most and inspires me the most is this..
"It depends upon the choice of the person to be honest or not... but that doesn't mean that love is not a real feeling.. love is real and existing..."
"But i don't believe in love as a matter of fate. Love is a matter of choice.. "
"Yes and so as everything else just like love it is a decision, decision to whether make it last or not..."
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for me..
Love indeed is a matter of choice.. Its a decision to make it last or not..
I am a man with few words. I want the world to be in an innovative yet very simple place to live. I am the type of person whom i will do everything just to make other people happy as long as they deserve to be happy. happy go lucky yet very emotional.
